The five dumbest dad bloggers is the sort of headline that sounds like linkbait but it is not. I am not trying to be clever or controversial. I haven’t ever thought about who the five smartest, dumbest or funniest are.
What I have thought about is how it has become increasingly popular for women to make comments about how dumb their husbands/boyfriends are. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard some woman talk about how their man isn’t measuring up in one way or another.
There are more than a handful of posts that I could point to that help promote the men are dumb/lazy/stupid or less than whatever it is we should be as well. I won’t be linking to any of those. They don’t need to receive any traffic from yours truly.
But I’ll ask a few questions that puzzle me.
- If he is so dumb why are you with him?
- What does it say about your judgment?
- What would you do if he spoke about you like that?
Children Are Important
I have been wrestling with whether to air out some dirty laundry here. It is not a simple decision because the consequences of my actions may not be borne solely by me. That is part of what makes the boundaries of blogging more challenging.
So I decided to speak in general terms. Children are not as dumb as some people might think. You can’t buy their love by seeing them once a year and presenting them with a big gift. Children want time with you. They deserve it.
Since I am the “mean” uncle I would be more than happy to tell you that you are an ungrateful putz who needs an attitude adjustment. If I believed that kicking your ass might accomplish something I might consider it. Not because it might be kind of fun but because the “mean” uncle doesn’t like it when our niece asks why you never show up for family events and leave early when you do.
You and I aren’t related by blood…that is good. That makes me happier because I might lose it if one of my siblings was like you. We were raised better than that and Ma & Pa Steiner shouldn’t be shamed in this fashion.
People Remember How You Make Them Feel
People remember how you make them feel. If you want to be popular and successful in most things you need to learn how to make people feel good. It is obviously not the sole requirement but it is significant.
One of the easiest ways for a business to distinguish itself from its competitors is to focus on people. Provide superior customer service and you will earn the gratitude and support of your customers.
As a father I try to be very aware of how I speak to my children because I know that my words hold more power. I know that the wrong words may stay with my children for years if not life. I don’t want them to be hurtful. I don’t want them to carry those around or to feel the sting unnecessarily.
Bloggers and People
I don’t know if I really want to write bloggers and people or if I shouldn’t say Bloggers are People. The latter is probably better than the former but it is so damn obvious it irks me.
Maybe what I should say/write is that once we post these words they last forever. We can edit and or delete them but you never know how many people see them before you make those changes. Once you click publish you lose control of these words and who knows where they go and what they are used for.
Got to get some shut eye, but before I go let me share this video with you. It is one that I have watched many times. It is a reminder to me about mental toughness. I think I need to work on that a bit, teach myself how to hold my tongue a little bit longer than I have.
And from an entirely different perspective it is a reminder that if I really try to do this I need to work much harder to get into the kind of shape it will take to qualify and complete it.