“If we shadows have offended,
Think but this, and all is mended:
that you have but slumber’d here,
While these visions disappear.
And this weak and idle theme,
No more yielding but a dream”
A Midsummer Night’s Dream- Shakespeare
Your old friend Jack is a simple dad blogger who doesn’t understand the ways of the world. He knows not what he speaks of in business or social media. This is proven to be true by the lack of comments and followers who frequent these parts.
That is two parts sarcasm and three parts rhubarb boiled in rum and sweetened with some sort of sugary something or other. Or maybe it is proof that I suck at math, beats me. I don’t care to think too hard about it.
I still don’t take myself or life too seriously. I still blog first for me and then for you without much thought about whether I post too frequently for some to keep up or if my content is too broad or too narrow.
Here is some of what I know about myself:
- I am forty-three and a father.
- Sometimes I still feel like I am on the outside looking in.
- I am intense. There is a fire that burns in my belly that has never gone out and probably won’t until I die.
- Some people like me and some hate me. There doesn’t tend to be much in the way of ambivalence about how people feel about me.
- I would prefer that people like me but I don’t care if they don’t. Not enough time in the day to worry about that.
- I am a contradiction and sometimes more self conscious than I would like to be.
- Social media is about people, not platforms or tools.
- Not everyone reads what we write/tweet/blog/share.
- Some people don’t understand what we write/tweet/blog/share.
- People remember how you make them feel more than they remember what we write/tweet/blog/share.
- Some people tell you what to do because they only know one way to do it and are afraid to admit it.
That photo makes me think of some of the blog communities that I have visited. One person speaks and everyone listens but almost no one says anything. At least that is one way of looking at it.
Another way is to say that the community can’t believe the crap this person is shoveling and they are preparing to respond to it.
My preference is to be a part of communities where people feel comfortable to disagree. I am not a sheep and am guilty of sometimes looking down at sheeple.
I will tell you if I disagree. I will try to be polite about it. Sometimes I will fail. I don’t like failing, especially when we are trying to have a discussion. People don’t like it when you make them feel stupid.
If you and your community fling crap at me I might take two handfuls and throw it back at you. If you are really nasty I might even try to rub it in your hair. Blame that on the Jack Reacher gene.
It is not a particularly good trait, but age has helped to eliminate much of it.
How Do You Know?
When my children tell me something is a fact I ask them “How Do You Know?” It is not because I want to be adversarial but because in the Internet age it is critical to ask questions about what we are told is real.
Many people have a bad tendency to believe whatever they read. It is easy to construct a professional looking site and to populate it with content that sounds important.
But that doesn’t mean that it is real, truthful or accurate.
I want my children to take time to think about what they are being told and to figure out what is real. I don’t want them to be suckered intentionally or otherwise.
Some of the “big shots” are fighting to stay on top or trying like crazy to get there. They are throwing crap at the wall to see what sticks. Not a very smart way to go about things, but when people feel insecure they do things.
But what do I know about any of this. I am just a dad blogger who slings words for a living.