The Dating Life

I stumbled across this post about dating and although I have been out of the field for quite some time decided to comment on it.

“Men pay for dates.

I pay to get my eyebrows waxed twice a month. I pay for manicures and pedicures and facials. I pay for hair color and cuts. I pay for makeup. I pay to shave more of my body. I pay for tampons.

Men pay for dates.

I pay for open-toed shoes, closed-toed shoes, boots, sneakers and sandals, in varying shades. I pay for more than one belt, and multiple pairs of jeans, pants, and dresses, skirts and shirts of varying types and uses. I pay for one outfit for yoga, one outfit for the beach and one totally different outfit for hiking. I pay for various outfits for various events, because it would be noticible and notable if I didn’t. I pay for purses. I pay for bras.

Men pay for dates.

I pay for pepper spray. I pay for diet advice. I pay for self-help books. I pay for greeting cards. I pay for jewelry. I pay for products that are sold to me at parties. I pay for gifts to bring to baby showers and bridal showers and bachelorette parties. I pay for annual visits to the gyno, and I pay for birth control.

MEN PAY FOR DATES.”

Grow up. Men could list a hundred items that we pay for as well. Part of being an adult means that you have to support yourself and part of that requires paying for certain items such as clothing, shelter, food etc. The fact that you pay for these things is immaterial to whether a man should pay for a date and if your attitude is remotely similar to the way it comes off in this post you’ll probably stay single.

Call me bitter, call me angry, call me whatever you want, I cannot stomach this nonsense. In college I had some female friends who would take mercy on their dates and at the end of the night they would kiss them as a reward for spending money on them. What the hell is that, what were they thinking?

It was one of the more ridiculous things I had heard, but the comments above rank right up there. Can you imagine telling your bank that you can’t pay your mortgage because you have to pay other bills.

When I asked a woman out I never minded paying for her, but I never felt that it was my obligation or that she owed me a night of sex for taking her out.

Some people just make me shake my head.