Don’t Say This At a Funeral

When consoling a grieving widow try not to say “harei at mekudeshet li*” when what you really meant to say is “HaMakom yenachem et’chem b’toch shar avay’lay Tzion vee’Yerushalayim.**”

Not that this has ever happened to me, I am just saying you might want to try and avoid it.

(*Part of a traditional Jewish wedding ceremony. In English it translates something like this: “You are betrothed to me.”

**This is a traditional line said to try and comfort mourners at Jewish funerals. In English it translates something like this: “May the Omnipresent comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.”)

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  1. Jack's Shack June 7, 2006 at 3:05 am


    They might have and then again maybe they didn’t. Just covering my bases here. 🙂

  2. Elie June 6, 2006 at 3:58 pm


    It would only be lashon hara if you told who said it – no? But did someone actually say it? How mortifying!

  3. Jack's Shack June 6, 2006 at 4:35 am


    If I said that might be characterized as loshon hara and we wouldn’t want that, would we.


    It is worth a chuckle.



    Soccer Dad,



    Murphy’s Law is a pain in the ass, isn’t it.

  4. tafka PP June 5, 2006 at 10:47 pm

    SoccerDad- that’s HYSTERICAL!

    Grr. Now that I’ve read your post, Murphy’s law dictates that this will definitely happen to me one day. Oh well, I’ll just blame you when it does, I’m sure *everyone* will understand!

    Actually I always get that sentence wrong anyway, I prefer the Sephardic version “Tenachem MeHashamayim”- two words, much more difficult to confuse!

  5. Soccer Dad June 5, 2006 at 8:27 pm

    May I also suggest that if you get Sheva Brachos at a wedding don’t say “…asher yatzar es ha-adam b’chochmo…” but rather “…asher yatzar es ha-adam b’tzalmo…”

  6. Rebecca June 5, 2006 at 8:26 pm

    wow I’m still laughing!!!

    Maybe that’s why they have it posted on the wall

  7. Ezzie June 5, 2006 at 8:01 pm

    OMG… I can’t imagine that happening. That’s too horribly hysterical.

  8. Jewish Blogmeister June 5, 2006 at 7:44 pm

    Did you know someone who did?

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