I am particularly irked by the partisan pandering and provincial nature of this preposterous proposition. In short if I speak my mind it is a stupid fucking waste of time. It is an engagement in the worst kind of intolerance and mental masturbation.
I have heard many different arguments for why gay marriage should be banned and they have the same utility as a handkerchief being used as a colander.
The two primary positions that people seem to espouse as to why it shouldn’t happen are because of religious prohibitions and a claim of misguided values.
I am very troubled by the assault on the separation of church and state. It is a guiding principle and part of our makeup. We came to America because we fled the religious intolerance of other lands, not as Jew or Gentile, but as people. We came to America for hope and for freedom.
In my home and among the people I associate with these are not political slogans but the values that we try and live by. I read blogs and op-ed pieces that accuse Islam of living in the 4th century and of being completely misguided. I am hear to say that the same finger that points outward may be extended inwards as well.
As for the claim that by allowing gay marriage we are going to witness the destruction of the moral fabric of society, we’ll that is a load of horseshit too. I can go to CNN or ABC and find stories of normal married couples who beat their children. I can find stories of mentally ill mothers who throw their kids into the ocean, who cut off their arms and commit the worst imaginable acts.
Not a week goes by when I don’t read a story about how some child was horribly abused. Not a week goes by in which I thank G-d that my own children are safe and pray that they stay this way. There are readers of this blog who were beaten by their fathers. There are women who were molested and scarred forever by their fathers.
The opposition will come up with stories of perverse actions committed by gays. They’ll find stories about pedophiles and sex offenders who are gay or come from gay homes. The sad thing is that if I give in to this sick game I can find my own set of heterosexual horror stories. And that is because we are all human. We share the ability to commit tremendous acts of hate, horror and harm and we share the ability to engage in the most loving acts you can think of.
And even if we were to ban it. Even if a Constitutional amendment was passed it wouldn’t stop it. Love will find a way. History is replete with examples of lovers who could not and would not live without each other.
But that is not even a place to go because the reality is that all we are talking about are people. They are our sons and daughters, brothers and sisters and our parents.
I lost an uncle to complications from AIDs. He was 49. He was a kind and loving man. He was a talented goldsmith. He had an infectious laugh. He traveled all over the world. He was my father’s younger brother and my grandfather’s youngest son.
I think that I may write about him in a separate post.