Does Marriage Kill The Female Libido

Maybe Gene Simmons was right.

Libido lags for ladies in luck

By Maurice Chittenden and Roger Dobson

THE female sex drive starts sputtering to a halt as soon as a woman has got her man, according to a new study.

Researchers have found that women’s libido plummets so rapidly when they believe they are in a secure relationship that after just four years the proportion of 30-year-old women wanting regular sex falls below 50 per cent.

There are few things that appear able to keep a woman sexually interested, the study found, but living apart for extended periods can help.

The findings for women contrast with those for men, whose sexual appetite hardly flagged at all up to 40 years after marriage.

The study, by researchers at Hamburg-Eppendorf University in Germany, challenges the popular image of modern women as equal to men in sexual appetite.

“Female motivation matches male sexual motivation in the first years of the partnership and then steadily decreases,” concludes Dietrich Klusmann, the medical psychologist who conducted the study.

“Male motivation remains constant regardless of the duration of the partnership.” Dr Klusmann questioned more than 500 people about their sex lives in order to measure changes in their libido.

He found that within a year of a relationship starting, female libido moved into steep decline.

While 60 per cent of 30-year-old women reported wanting sex “often” at the start of a relationship, the figure fell to below 50per cent within four years and to about 20 per cent after 20 years.

Dr Klusmann, whose work will be published this week in the journal Human Nature, has compared his findings to the sexual habits of prairie voles and offers an evolutionary explanation.

He believes that women, having found a man with whom to procreate, keep “resources” scarce to keep the man interested. Men, on the other hand, maintain a higher sex drive in the hope of keeping their mate faithful and other men at bay.

The Germans found, however, that living apart slows the decline in female libido, confirming the maxim “absence makes the heart grow fonder”.

Women whose husbands or boyfriends have higher educational qualifications than their own also maintain their sex drive. This, speculates Dr Klusmann, is because such men are regarded as a “valuable mate of choice” by other women.

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  1. Jerusalemcop August 15, 2006 at 10:36 am

    isnt that one of the reasons in favor of women keeping the laws of taharat ha’mishpacha? Keep the libido running when you get almost two weeks off a month.


  2. Jack's Shack August 15, 2006 at 6:41 am




    Beats me.

  3. -Ann August 14, 2006 at 7:15 pm

    Very interesting. WHo pays people to think this stuff up?

  4. Another meshugannah mommy August 14, 2006 at 3:56 pm


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