A buddy of mine just finished getting divorced. Last Thursday they signed the final docs and now he is officially single again.
Over the course of an evening he talked about his marriage and what happened. He shared some of his hopes and dreams and explained how surprised he was that things didn’t work out between them.
He said that the split was bittersweet and that though he was happier not to be wed to her, a part of him was still sad. I told him that what he was saying made sense and reassured him that he had done the right thing.
I don’t know if it helped him but I hope that it did. One thing really stood out during our talk and that was the question of knowing when to walk away. How do you determine that you are not going through a phase. When do you decide that you cannot salvage things. When do you say goodbye and walk away.
It is a hard question to answer. I am not sure that I really know, but it is something that I am mulling over.