Some of the degenerates that hang out here and around the net are going to misunderstand that headline. This isn’t about pleasuring yourself in that way or the pursuit of hedonistic pleasures although there are elements that pertain to it. Rather it is tied into posts that I have written, read and discussions that I have had with friends about our dreams. It is about our fear of failure and acknowledging that there are things that we do that prevent us from following our dreams.
We love our children and work to give them lives that make them happy. We drive ourselves into the ground to give them what they ask for and to help them make their dreams come true. When your child is in danger you don’t stop to consider whether you will get hurt before you act. You take the bullet, you step inside the burning building or you fight the lion barehanded. Â Don’t believe me, threaten a child and watch their mom/dad turn into the Hulk. I can’t think of my children getting hurt without puffing up my chest and clenching my fist.
So my friends I have to ask the question, why don’t we love ourselves enough to fight harder for our dreams. Why do we let the voices in our head pick away at us. Why don’t we show the same faith in ourselves that we have in our children. What is wrong with us? When we look at the people who are living the dream life we think about what do we see that is different about them?
I say that most of them are no different. I say that most of them have the same fears, concerns and insecurities as anyone else. Sure there are going to be those people who are smarter, wiser, better looking etc. Some of them are going to outclass us in some areas, but so what. Why do they deserve it more than we do. Why do they have what you want.
Now mind you that what you want is a subjective question and it is something that changes over time. I have spent hours thinking about what it is that I want. I have put the time in because I have decided that I am beyond ready to go get it. I share some of those things here because they are things that we can all relate to. Some of them I keep to myself because for the moment they are too personal, too intimate to let others see.
But the one thing I know is that I have a plan and I am working on it. When the boys and I talk about our dreams I keep harping on the reminder to show some self love and to respect ourselves enough to fight for what we want. That doesn’t mean that we ignore the wishes and desires of others. It is not a license to be selfish and without regard for others. Instead it is a license to be selfish when necessary and when appropriate.
We only have one life and this is it. I can’t wear the shackles that I once did. I broke those chains and they aren’t ever going back. Sometimes it feels a bit like I am engaged in a Sisyphean effort, but overall I feel good. Progress is slow, but it is coming.
So the question is, do you love yourself enough to fight for your needs or are you going to just lie down and watch life pass you by.