A social media expert once told me that I have 30 seconds to capture the attention of the people that point and click their way onto my blog. Thirty seconds to convince them that they should stop surfing long enough to read my post and comment upon it. I wasn’t interested in debating the issue so I didn’t tell them that I don’t worry about that. I didn’t tell them that I believe in building my community around me or why I blog.
I didn’t do it because they weren’t listening and I didn’t have the energy to pitch them on my position. Â Too much is happening in my life to expend energy on things that don’t provide a positive ROI. Â So I simply don’t do it.
Not long afterwards I sat in on a meeting where people ignored the topic of the meeting and spent precious minutes talking about how often opportunity knocks and how so many people fail to answer the door. Since I am not a fan of silly platitudes I made a face, rolled my eyes and unsuccessfully tried to look interested in the conversation. Silly me, I should remember that Cookie Monster is the only person who can roll their eyes and still look interested. Perhaps I should feel badly that my sour expression put a damper on things but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.
I just couldn’t listen to it. I didn’t have it in me to listen to them talk about how many times they have come within moments of becoming fabulously wealthy if only they had done XYZ. My life is filled with a dozen examples of things that I could have or should have done. I know them all. I have the mental checklist of all of the things that I blew and am quite aware of the hard work and or pain that I suffered through because I blew it.
But with very few exception I don’t focus upon these things. I know exactly what I truly regret and whyÂ the other stuff doesn’t matter.
Read that again:Â the other stuff doesn’t matter.
Here is what I know. I have succeeded and I have failed. And I have done both more than once. My goal is to end my life being able to say that the successes outweighed and outnumbered the failures.
When I wrote about my frustration and disappointment with my birthday it was because it is the worst birthday I have had. There is no need to sugarcoat or try to hide from the truth. It was bad. It is bad and the reasons why haven’t changed and are unlikely to any time soon. The reasons why are for the most part outside of my control which is why I am frustrated and angry. I am quite good at getting into trouble on my own and I very much dislike being assisted in it. But as my friends and family will tell you I describe as “it is what it is.”
That doesn’t mean that I have given up on this battle because I most certainly haven’t. But I have accepted that I have a limited ability to affect it in the manner that I want. I have accepted that the situation is unfair and that what is happening is unreasonable.
For now I continue to focus on what brings me joy and what makes me happy. Because the reality is that while this moment is unpleasant it is nothing more than a moment. It doesn’t define me unless I chose to let it do so and that I will not do.
P.S. The next time opportunity knocks I am going to open the door and punch opportunity in the mouth, kick it in the balls and then drag that SOB inside where I’ll hold him hostage. Opportunity and I are going to have a nice long talk about the future but we’ll that nonsense for a different post.