What Happens When Bloggers Bully
Editor’s Note: The first time I ran this post was here. I almost didn’t use Â the word bully again because people have begun to abuse it as they have other words such as epic and amazing. It shouldn’t be misused because when you do that words lose their power but recent circumstances made it clear it is appropriate.
When you use post pictures of individuals online for the purpose of denigrating them and pepper the post around such pictures withÂ proseÂ that is designed to hurt them and make them feel badly you are engaging in bullying. It is made even more cowardly when done so from behind a keyboard.
I have seen this happen for as long as I have been blogging and I don’t expect it to stop. That is a sad comment about people, but I am not the guy who believes that awareness cures all ills. It may cause some people to think twice and or reconsider but others will keep on keeping on.
But I would rather mention it and slow down or prevent what I can than ignore it.
The fastest way to make friends and enemies in blogging is remarkably simple. All you need to do is create and publish a list called â€œBestâ€ or â€œMost Popularâ€ and you are guaranteed to be praised and criticized for your wisdom and or tunnel vision. The interesting thing about it is that it doesn’tmatter whether you are an expert in a particular field or the most popular blogger in your niche because you will make waves.
You can blame it on human nature or spin it any way you want to because the truth is that with few exceptions most bloggers want to be praised for their work. Most want to have millions of readers and comment sections that are overflowing with discussions about the most recent posts.
None of this should be seen as being exceptionally profound or insightful because it doesnâ€™t take a P.H.D. to point out that politics, popularity contests and jealousy rear their heads in the blogosphere with the same frequency as they do everywhere else in life.
However, the thing that is different about the blogosphere is that the lack of face-to-face contact provides a fertile ground for bad behavior. When you donâ€™t have to look someone in the eye it is really easy to write a post or posts in which you lambaste them. When you donâ€™t worry about seeing someone at the office, grocery store or school yard it can feel like you have a license to impugn their character and make nasty comments about their person, looks, blog and or integrity.
Still, that is just a prelude to one of the more significant issues that comes along with bloggingâ€¦bullies. Yes, the scourge of the schoolyard has somehow managed to find his/her way into the blogosphere. It is a sad but true story about how sometimes a lack of accountability morphs into a very ugly atmosphere.
It really shouldnâ€™t be surprising to learn that there are bloggers who engage in bullying because the sad reality is that bullying is a trait/characteristic that is all too human in nature.
But what distinguishes the bloggers who bully from the kid on the schoolyard is their reach. A popular blogger has a reach that the schoolyard bully can only dream of.
A popularÂ blogger can literally unleash a horde of angry people upon your and or your business.
If you are a comic book geek like me you have heard the expression that with great power comes great responsibility more times than you can count. That has never been truer than in regard to the popularbloggers. It is not just because of the number of people that they influence but because what is published online lives on in perpetuity.
Spend a little time reading parenting blogs and you will find numerous posts that discuss educating our children about this topic and why it is so very important to be careful about what we publish. It is because the Internet is unforgiving. If you find a way to act like fool or an ignorant jackass you might be privileged to share the moment again with your great grandchildren.
Another danger that stems from the popular bloggers influence is that their bullying isnâ€™t always seen for what it is. The written word is very different from the spoken. Without verbal clues it becomes harder to discern sarcasm or attempts at humor. It is also different because those who are less technologically savvy may not always recognize just how many people are participating in the free for all.
In person it is much easier to gauge how many people are participating in a particular activity. On the school yard you can see when it is one versus many- but that same clarity isnâ€™t so obvious online.
But that doesnâ€™t lessen the sting of the words or the bite of the consequences.There is no mitigating factor here. You donâ€™t get to say that you didnâ€™t know or you didnâ€™t mean it. That assumes that one day you feel badly about your actions and decide that you wish to apologize for them.
The best advice that I can provide for any blogger is the same thing that I tell my children. Do your best to treat others the way that you want to be treated and try to remember that good intentions can sometimes go bad. Sometimes the best thing you can do is say you are sorry and move on. Because when the lights go out and you are left alone with your thoughts your conscience will always let you know whether you did right or wrong.
Sebastian Daniels September 30, 2014 at 10:48 am
The JackB has such a new look. It will take me a while to adjust hehe. I agree that the internet allows people to do things they would never do in person or hopefully they wouldn’t. It is sad too because you can’t see the damage that is being done that would hopefully have made the person stop in real life. I’m naive though because I know there are some really cruel people out there and they will stop at nothing to tear others down.
The JackB September 30, 2014 at 6:49 pm
@sebastiandaniels:disqus More changes to come, but probably smaller ones than what you have seen here.
You are right, we can’t see the damage. Sometimes I wish we could, maybe it would cut down on the hate.
Underdaddy September 29, 2014 at 7:25 pm
I have to agree. The blog world is a little different than I thought and I jumped in for a little fun. Most people are game on and full tilt. I’m happy I don’t offend my Grandmother too often with an f-bomb on my site. Thanks for perspective, it is needed out there.
The JackB September 30, 2014 at 8:13 am
Most people out here are pretty nice and happy to go along and get along with everyone else. You do get a few who get extra courage to be foolish because they hide behind a keyboard, but most are just fine.
southmainmuse September 29, 2014 at 6:58 am
Like your new blogging digs. And it is frightening how quickly someone can take someone down — or try to — in this digitally connected age. I usually try to give anyone, famous or not, the benefit of the doubt if reading something unsavory about them or something they said. None of us don’t say things we regret or regret how we said it, even though the point was valid. I can’t stand this gang up mentally either. As far as blogging, I guess whenever you put yourself out there, there is the chance that someone will take offense and spout off. Like you said, the bigger the platform, the bigger the need for thought before you criticize. The one thing I was struck by with Robin Williams’ death — was how many, many people commented on his kindness. His genius, yes. But overwhelmingly, it was about his thoughtfulness. That made an impression on me.
The JackB September 30, 2014 at 8:16 am
@southmainmuse:disqus I have wondered how many arguments have started because of a misunderstanding online either because the author didn’t express themselves clearly or because the reader wasn’t paying attention.
My guess is quite a bunch of them,
I felt the same way about Robin Williams. The number of people who talked about him being kind and thoughtful touched me.