It Is More Than Just Bad Timing
It was a bad Thanksgiving dinner but not because the turkey was dry or because any of the other food was sub par.
I was the reason it was bad or rather it was my bad attitude and bad mood.
This year I didn’t want to do anything or be a part of any sort of celebration because I didn’t feel like I had anything to celebrate. Doesn’t mean I am not grateful for my health and for those I love because I am but this year it wasn’t enough to keep my frustration from spilling over a bit.
Job interviews have come and gone, some have resulted in definitive no’s and others have not said one way or another but the long silence between conversations doesn’t lend itself to optimism.
Dancing on the razor’s edge has become a way of life for me and though I have become adept at finding ways to avoid serious injury it doesn’t mean I haven’t suffered from a thousand tiny paper cuts nor does it mean I have cried about them either.
I have accepted what I could and done my best to just roll with whatever has come my way but that doesn’t provide me with much patience and the internal stores are almost all depleted.
That is probably why when the independently wealthy who had the good fortune to marry into money and or inherit very successful businesses made me so angry.
I couldn’t listen to them complain about hard lives because when money is the cure for what ails you and you have ample supply it is hard for me to feel badly.
It Is More Than Just Bad Timing
This post was going to be called Write Under The Write Conditions and it was going to be about writing but I decided to save it.
Decided to save it because I want it to run when it has a chance to get a little more play and see a bit more sunshine than is likely to come at almost midnight on the Friday night of Thanksgiving weekend.
Got a bottle of Scotch and a new cellphone eyeballing me. Tempted to pour more than a snort, grab my headphones and phone and take a few quiet moments to do nothing.
But I promised to participate in the daily posting required of Naboplomo so I can’t stop for the drink or to grab that single piece of pumpkin pie that is taunting me from the refrigerator.
The Beatles are singing “Once there was a way to get back home” and I am thinking about how much I relate to that, but mostly in an optimistic way.
I wrote earlier this week or last about how I miss having a home. It is not because I am homeless because I am not now nor have I ever been such.
But I haven’t lived in a place that I though of as being mine in a long time. Every where I have been has been a stop on a way to something better. Maybe it is tied into the storm I wrote about here.
Frankly the hardest part about this particular storm isn’t the length as much as it is the dust it has stirred up. Got me thinking long and hard about multiple choices and decisions in ways that aren’t particularly helpful nor useful.
Got me wondering how I could have been stupid so many times, but when I take a deep breath it is clear that I wasn’t…most of the time.
There are one or two things where I can concede they weren’t the smartest choices but when I am fair to myself it is clear that some of the criticism is unfair.
I did the best I could given the information I had and some of what happened truly had nothing to do with me. I wasn’t responsible for deregulation or for the crash in 2008.
Wasn’t responsible for banks losing their minds or bosses who thought it was better to cut their employees compensation because it enabled them to maintain their lifestyles.
I could have taken a different path than I did and have. Could have walked a more common road and put myself in a position to have better handled the hard moments of this storm but I didn’t.
Didn’t become an attorney like I had intended or take some other positions that would have paid more than some of what I have done.
Spent most of my life doing things my way, even when I was going along with the crowd I was still doing it my way because it is all I know how to do/be.
There are moments when I remind myself that I am who I am by choice and that I am accountable for all that I have or don’t have. Moments where I accuse my ‘do things my way’ nature as being an excuse for being a fuck up but I don’t really believe I am.
Even when I am most frustrated, most upset and most nervous I never believe that.
I am just a storm walker searching for the eye of the storm. I have found it before and I’ll find it again.
When I do things will improve and life will be different than it is now.
But if I win the lottery, inherit mega millions or make it all on my own I hope I am never as jaded or as obnoxious as the people I heard the other night. I am sure they meant well but it just chapped my hide and the reason for it was more than just bad timing.
Damien Riley November 29, 2014 at 10:08 pm
This is a great rant. I hope you reach a place of independence soon. I’ve been lucky so far. It was great reading your post.
The JackB November 30, 2014 at 12:59 am
@rileycentral:disqus Thanks. I have been there before and will get there again. I like to think it is just giving me more fodder for writing.
Gina November 29, 2014 at 9:16 am
I like that Beatles song.
The JackB November 30, 2014 at 12:58 am
@disqus_UXlo3lVJLM:disqus It is one of my favorites.