I have been involved in various message boards for about ten years and blogging for 3.5. During that time I have seen and experienced a lot of different things. A few days ago I wrote about civility in the blogosphere. The impetus for that particular post was because of a disagreement that I was involved in.
There were a number of us debating a variety of topics. It got heated and I was attacked on the blog and by email. It is not the first time and I am sure that it won’t be the last. You can’t get involved in some of these conversations without being prepared for that. They have attacked my character, remarked upon my lineage and made specific threats against myself and my family.
If you let it get to you it can be discouraging and disheartening. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me. I have a thick skin, some people might even say a thick head. 😉 I don’t pay much attention to it unless it is being said by the people I care about. People cannot hurt you unless you give them the power to.
All that being said I have found from time to time that I have been quite disappointed by what I have read at some blogs. It is not uncommon. We all find blogs that we really enjoy. Sometimes we find something that we think is really special, a blog that speaks to us. After a time you might develop an attachment to that blogger. Maybe you see them as a friend or someone who could become a good friend.
And then comes a post or posts that make you say WTF! They produce posts that leave you feeling dumbfounded, wondering how you could have ever thought that the blogger was a kind and decent person. To be clear, I include myself in this. I am not naive enough to think that I have never offended anyone.
When this happens you are faced with determining how to proceed. Do you contact the person and try to discuss it. Do you ignore it. Do you try to balance the post with your own comments.
What do you think?