What is a Jew to do on Christmas? Well if you skip the movies and Chinese food you just might find yourself sitting around the house with other Jewish friends.
And as you watch 16 boys and 7 girls of assorted sizes and ages run in circles you might find yourself contemplating the great mysteries of life such as:
Will they ever get tired?
Could they scream any louder?
Boy I am glad that my son isn’t behaving like that. Don’t they teach him anything.
I wonder if they have any ice cream. I really like peppermint.
Or instead of being lost in your own world you might fall into the group conversation about whether there is such a thing as soulmates or besheret. I have tackled the topic in a few different places and from different angles.
Given the things that I have seen and experienced during the past number of years it is a topic that I wrestle with. Apparently more than one of my friends are as well. I can’t say that I am completely surprised by this. Some of it makes perfect sense to me. Most of us are somewhere in our late thirties or early forties. We’re no longer newly graduated from college or for that matter grad school. And with very few exceptions we are all parents.
So it makes sense to me that we have reached a place where we look around and take stock. Much of your younger years is involved in trying to reach various milestones. There is always something just ahead that you need to work for. And then you reach this place where you are sort of, kind of settled.
It is not that there aren’t challenges to be overcome or things to do, there are. But things are different. We have been through so many of the battles and survived so many wars that you can’t help but realize that you are not the person you once were. Unless you have no self awareness you have figured out who you are. You know yourself more intimately and better than you did when you were younger.
When my friends ask if I believe in soul mates it makes me wonder about their relationships. Are they still happy with their partner? Are they feeling unfulfilled? Are they growing together or are they growing apart?
Call me a skeptic, but I don’t believe that all of these couples are going to survive. If statistics are to be believed than some of them are going to most assuredly collapse.
But none of this delves into the question of whether soul mates are real or a fabrication of the movie industry/society/etc.
I can’t give you my answer right now. Ok, I could but then I’d risk the wrath of the soon to be seven-year-old boy who is waiting for me to help him finish building the Lego Jet.
Back a bit later.