It Is Not Cute When I Act Like a Father
You won’t find too many posts in which I rant about fathers being treated unfairly. It is not my focus but it never hurts to remind people that there is nothing cute about acting like a father.
It is not cute when I take my kids to the park or help them with their homework. Nor is it cute when I help them learn how to ride a bike, cook a meal or do anything else that parents do.
The reason it isn’t is simple. I am their father. I am a parent. Fathers are parents. We parent. That is what we do. We aren’t mom with a penis. We are fathers and our role in the lives of our children is invaluable.
It is not a competition. We aren’t trying to take the place of mom nor do we want to be mom. We like being dad. It is a wonderful thing and I am grateful for it.
Don’t misunderstand. I recognize when you are saying that you think it is cute in a complimentary way as opposed to condescending. I don’t get upset over compliments, but sometimes condescending irritates me.
Want to know something else that irritates me? When brands ignore the role and influence of fathers. It is a huge mistake to ignore fathers because we are fifty percent of the equation. We aren’t moms. We shop differently and view the world differently. We have huge amounts of purchasing power.
Do you think that married fathers aren’t involved in discussions about major purchases. Do you really believe that dad doesn’t talk to mom about the appliances as well as traditional male areas like tools, cars and electronics. Do you really think that dads don’t cook.
Have you ever watched any of the cooking shows on television. Ever notices how many of those people are male.
And dammit, ladies when you show up at a men’s room and try to determine if it is safe for your son to visit try to remember that not every man is a pedophile. Some of us won’t answer you when we are fully engaged in our business in a stall. That is as much as I will say about that.
Got to run now because my son forgot his lunch and I need to bring it to him. That is not cute, it is called being a father.