Nobody Reads Dad Blogs Anymore
Not long ago I was given the pleasure ofÂ encounteringÂ the Bloggers Are Narcissists mom…again. If you haven’t had the pleasure or time to read that post let me share a couple of choice excerpts:
â€œAre you coaching soccer this year Jack?â€ I nodded my head and asked if he was. â€œI am. We have a really good team this year, I think weâ€™ll be undefeated.â€ Â That is the kind of talk that makes me laugh. I probably shouldnâ€™t have responded but the surgery to remove the filters from my mouth was successful. â€œI have always wanted to be the coach of an undefeated team of eight year-old girls.â€
“Really I could write one hell of a post about being targeted by the mean girl collective.
It would give me a good excuse to tell you about how I told one of the husbands that I am not intimidated by a â€œlick it around the edges girlâ€ and her husband â€œride me Sheldon.â€ But as you can see I donâ€™t need an excuse to work that into the story nor do I need to fabricate a reason to tell you that he told me that some people areÂ fuckedÂ and others areÂ fuckers. If I did I would have to relate the entire tale of my snottiness including the part where I told him that I donâ€™t engage in pissing contests with men who donâ€™t wear an extra large condom.
Sadly that has to be among the worst insults I have ever been given the opportunity to use. Really, it is embarrassing and I should strike that from the public record.”
“Nobody reads dad blogs anymore.”
Don’t ask me what led to this proclamation because I didn’t ask. I don’t think the woman has a clue that I am a blogger and I see no reason to tip her off and it is not because I am afraid of her opinion or any repercussions either. I just don’t like her and have no interest in spending more time with her than I have to.
Still I must admit that I was mildly curious what dad blogs she may or may not have been reading. I say may or may not because I am not sure if she can read.
I am not a professional but my guess is theÂ Bloggers Are Narcissists momÂ hasn’t figured out there is no correlation between IQ and how much money you have in the bank. Nor has she realized yet that she is a big fish in a small pond and that outside of her bubble she has very little influence.
Of Fathers And Daughters
The reason I know her is because there was a time when our children attended the same school and played on the same soccer team. I won’t bore you with the long sordid tale about how this went but I’ll say that it grinds on me sometimes because I feel like my daughter was mistreated.
It grinds on me because it happened when I was gone and that is hard for me.
The move to Texas was absolutely the right thing Â to do. It was important, necessary, significant and I have no regrets about having done it. In the short term it was hard but in the long term we’ll see great benefits from it.
However it meant that when the nasty mom and her cohorts came down on my daughter I wasn’t around to help manage things. That is not to say no one stood up for her because her mom and grandparents did.
I have no doubt about them doing a good job or of their being fierce because I was part of the email communications that went back and forth.
But I also know that her former coach is both a chauvinist and a prick. It might not have changed things but if I had been face to face with him…
Or maybe it is a good thing I wasn’t. I teach my children about the importance of working things out calmly and civilly so maybe it’s good they didn’t see me tell him how little I think of him.
Fathers look out for their daughters and their sons. It is important for me to make sure my kids know I have their backs…always.
But Maybe It is True That Nobody Reads Dad Blogs
Had a short conversation with my son the other day about some things that are happening at school. He tells me about how some of the kids talk about what is normal and what isn’t.
It leads to a conversation about how much of our perception of what is normal is fueled by where and how we grow up. It is so easy to get caught up in our lives and forget that what we think is routine may not be that way for others.
My experience shows it happens with both adults and kids.
The point is we tend to classify normal as being the habits and practices of the people we spend the majority of our time with. If those people read blogs and talk about it we might think everyone does.
Same is true if they don’t.
Maybe it is self serving for me to say so, but in my bubble dad blogs are active, vital and popular. But don’t tell theÂ Bloggers Are Narcissists mom that because I’d hate to pop her bubble and expose her to reality.
Natalie the Singingfool September 7, 2014 at 1:06 pm
That is hard, to not be there to protect your kid. But they usually turn out okay, and better than that, pretty darn strong.
The JackB September 9, 2014 at 4:04 pm
@nataliethesingingfool:disqus I definitely agree with all of that. Not easy, but to relax about but they do learn how to take care of themselves.
Stacie September 6, 2014 at 4:22 am
I haven’t been reading any blogs for most of the summer. Or blogging. I’m hoping to jump back in. Moving is so time consuming!
The JackB September 9, 2014 at 4:04 pm
I hear you. I have moved more times than I like to think about. Good luck with it. I am sure you will be back soon.
Brian Sorrell September 5, 2014 at 10:10 pm
You can’t really say “nobody.” I’m a pretty unpopular blogger, and I have yet to post an essay that gets zero hits. Somebody reads them. Maybe she means “nobody important,” in which case, fuck her. The world is way bigger than her opinions, or anyone’s for that matter. (File that lesson under “things I’ve learned as an immigrant….”)
The JackB September 5, 2014 at 10:37 pm
@briansorrell:disqus This woman needs to take her head out of the hand dryers in the bathrooms or maybe I should say every time she speaks it sounds like one of those dryers–irritating.
I won’t bore you with all the stories of her myopic world view. She’d do well to open her eyes when she travels and see it is a big world with lots of different kinds of people in it.
Sebastian Daniels September 5, 2014 at 5:02 pm
Too busy watching the Kardashians to read dag blogs!! Just kidding I do not watch that show! You are absolutely right that we assume what is normal is what we surround ourself with.
The JackB September 5, 2014 at 10:34 pm
There is so much ‘truth’ delivered to us by our companions and surroundings. It is a big part of why our parents were right to push us to hang out with people who are good for us.
Larry Bernstein September 4, 2014 at 6:28 pm
We are totally to comment objectively about dad blogs or maybe even dads based on being in the Dad Bloggerss Facebook Group.
The JackB September 5, 2014 at 10:33 pm
That is for sure.