About That Basket Of Deplorables

We’re several days past the election and the hard feelings/anger hasn’t dissipated on either side.

I continue to see posts filled with rage and pain and accusatory tones in which people wave their fingers about how awful the Trump/Clinton supporters are.

Today I was told how to feel about something that I said people might find to be insulting. “No insults were given, you are just upset because someone told the truth.”

I got a good laugh out of it because it was based upon an opinion piece and not some academic study.

Part of me was tempted to point out the obvious fallacies in their argument and ask if they thought it was ok to tell people how they ought to feel.

I didn’t bother doing so because it wasn’t going to lead to a discussion and I don’t care what some stranger thinks of me.

Nor did I expect them to hear, listen or accept my response and I am ok with that. I have other people and places I am focused upon.

About That Basket Of Deplorables

I have friends who voted for Trump and though I vociferously disagree with their choice I won’t end our friendship.

It is ok to disagree and I understand their reasons and trust none of them were based upon hate. 

But that is predicated upon 30 plus years of friendship and significant experience that makes me trust their word.

“Jack, do you know how offensive it is to be labeled by a candidate as “deplorable?”

I responded by asking how we should feel about a candidate who is supported by racist groups and who has emboldened them.

“You can tell me they don’t make up a significant portion of the population and I believe you see that as important. But I’ll tell you Trump’s refusal to distance and disavow their support in a significant way troubles me.

I’ll tell you hate and mistrust has been sown in his name too and you have to expect a strong response because of that. You can’t just say it is a case of sore losers. I won’t excoriate you for your vote, but I’ll say I expect you to do your part to stop these racist groups from thinking they received a mandate.”


We Have To Talk

If we have learned anything from this election it is that we are deeply divided and that is why now more than ever we need to talk.

I don’t believe we are all racists or sore losers.

I don’t believe we are all one group of anything other than Americans.

And like I said, I don’t unfriend people for simply having a different opinion than I do. I’ll listen and talk to you about all sorts of things.

Of course there are limits and if you promote racism/hate you’ll find I oppose you and in that case, well we probably won’t be friends.


What I am interested in is finding ways to get all of us pulling together and pushing for change for the common good.

You tell me you want to make America great again and show me how to do it in an inclusive manner and I’ll be right there to try and help.

We might disagree on ways and means, but that common goal keeps us talking and working together.

But if your idea is one that excludes others simply based upon race, color or creed then you and I have a problem because you aren’t talking about America.

We are a nation that was built upon the backs of immigrants.

We all come from somewhere else.

I don’t believe for a moment that we have so lost our way that we can never find it again. This can be a hiccup and bump in the road but only if we work together.

Fear & Anger

Fear & anger have led us to this corner and the only way to get beyond it is to start talking.

It is not hokey to say united we stand and divided we fall because that nugget has been proven true a million times.

So like I said to my friends who voted for Trump, I won’t call you names for doing what you thought was right but I will hold you accountable as I do everyone else to help promote inclusion.

In some ways your voice might even be more important as you let your candidate know that you didn’t vote for a bigot or a bully.

And like it or not, that is how he appears which is why these hate groups support him.

So help him help himself by demanding he do the right thing to disavow their support and to help the rest of us see that we really are pulling for the same common goal.

We’ll still argue about policies, some of them quite aggressively but at least we might feel like we are all Americans and not two separate groups.

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  1. Kenya G. Johnson November 14, 2016 at 10:16 am

    I’ve pretty much checked out. I don’t know how or what I will do to help make us a whole but I’m not really up to hearing one’s side of the story because I feel I’ll never understand. My defenses are up and that’s as confrontational as I’ll get. I definitley won’t jump on the hate bandwagon. I unfriended one facebook friend before the primaries. Now I’m just off of facebook for awhile.

    • Jack Steiner November 15, 2016 at 7:10 am

      I hear what you are saying. What I find most frustrating is the lack of understanding from many of the people who selected a different candidate than I di.

      I don’t expect them to agree with everything, but I keep thinking some of what I am saying has to resonate and that they should show some appreciation for a different POV.

      Thus far it just isn’t happening and I don’t get it.

  2. Soulati November 13, 2016 at 7:09 am

    While I agree in spirit of you upholding your friendships, I for one have lost a really good one over this election.

    While adults may be able to converse with heated discourse and shake hands afterwards, what about our children, Muslims, gays, blacks, Latinos, and others of us not of the white supremacist spectrum? Already, hatred is being bestowed upon people who can’t hide under the rug and shouldn’t because they live in a land of freedom where we embrace differences…or used to.

    I just read http://johnpavlovitz.com post re the above. It breaks my heart because who in their right mind can be so cruel to our children, neighbors and fellow Americans who came to this country and were born here as our equals in spite of our differences?

    And, the person at the helm who stokes this outrage continues to say nothing at all. Secretly, it fuels his arrogance and power.

    As Garrison Keiller (spelling) stated in his widely circulated Washington Post story…we elitists will now tend to our leaves and clean our garages and let them manage opiate addiction, immigration, ISIS, healthcare, and everything else we touch on behalf of every citizen in America. (something along those lines).

    As I informed my daughter, run for student government and make a difference, volunteer in our community, pursue the field of law (as she plans) so that her voice will make a difference in our nation’s future for her generation.

    Enough. I’m going to cry some more.

    • Jack Steiner November 14, 2016 at 6:04 am

      I have definitely lost a few over this too but not because of me. It is because they couldn’t accept that I disagree with their perspective.

      I didn’t vote for Trump and refuse to automatically castigate all who did. But I agree he needs to come out and start telling his supporters he is for all people regardless of race/color/creed. He needs to be active in reigning in the David Dukes and their ilk and I am concerned because I haven’t seen that.

      But I am also looking to influence people in general because that is how we can fight back against this.

      It is very disturbing.

  3. Chloe Jeffreys November 12, 2016 at 9:28 pm

    I wish I could talk at all. I’m so furious that I’ve just stepped away.

    I have a completely unqualified, pussy grabbing, race-baiting ignorant narcissist as my president-elect.

    And at every point people want this wholly heinous person to act like an entirely different person and that’s supposed to be okay. That’ll make it now all okay. But it’s not okay. I’m not okay with this.


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